Candid Mom Rant Concernin’ the “Sex Talk".” Read at Your Own Risk.

My #3 man cub has discovered what happens upon waking and desperately needing to pee. That's right. Boner. Like Isaac did at his age, he gets quite agitated when it "won't go down." Isaac tells Ethan the same thing I said to him. It's funny because things come full circle. He's trying to help by assuring him "Don't touch it and it'll go back down." I said that exact phrase to Isaac multiple times a day when toilet training. When it's toilet training time, I keep each man cub naked. It is so much easier. Far less diaper laundry. It's worked with 1 and 2. I am now on 3. Almost done. Whew...

All y'all getting on the sexual hype that this subject is inappropriate, I will be quite blunt. The sooner you are upfront with your kids about their bodies, the better. Don't give them all the details. You decide what is age appropriate as parents, however I beg you not to allow your children to be ignorant because of your embarrassment. That's not an option as parents. It should never be an option.

My kids refer to their genitalia as a penis. That's what it is. Period. They also know I am a girl, thus I have a vagina and breasts. Shocker. AND due to unforeseen circumstances surrounding man cub #4, I informed the other 3 what to expect come birth day because we birth at home. Also, we did not know if Paul would make it home in time to attend birth day, I flat told the man cubs that babies come out of vaginas. Yes. I told my 5, 4, and 2 1/2 year old exactly that. My kids can handle that truth. Not all can. I would rather them know instead of learn that fact by accident--say, as it's happening in front of their eyes because they walked into my room at that precise moment?

Y'all, you cannot be embarrassed about this subject. Kids are experimenting at younger ages. This isn't just peer pressure happening. This is due to trauma at home, releasing frustration, also to feel loved because that is what society has taught them. You don't get the love and attention you need at home? Make up for it with sex. Seriously. You think I'm wrong? I KNOW what I'm talking about. I learned what I needed to know by studying and by physically practicing. Yep. I just admitted that. I'm not a reserved person in case you haven't picked up on that.

For the love of everything that is holy, PLEASE don't just give your kids the vague talk that their body is their's and no one else sees it, and stranger danger. That is not enough! Kids touch themselves starting at a young age. They wanna know what each body part is, what it does, and how each body part feels. This is not learned behavior as a result of someone molesting their child. Everyone jumps on the train that it's inappropriate or someone has been molested. Get off that train wreck and open your mind. Kids are curious. Kids learn by exploring. The subject of exploration is irrelevant. Kids are natural born scientists with no knowledge except what they experience through their own perception. This is where we, as parents, have to step in to fill the gaps.

It is so frustrating as a parent who is candid with her kids, when another parent uses slang terms around my kids for their genitalia. Have you ever thought that the biggest reason for the immaturity of children is not their age or mental maturity, but the simple fact that parents have failed their kids with their own immaturity? "Son, don't touch your we-we. That's yucky." Oh, is it? So, you don't touch your husband's we-we during foreplay because it's yucky, right? Think about how that sounds! Do you tell your husband to wash his we-we after he's worked all day and there's some serious swamp ball smell as he's walked through the door? Holy crap! NO!

Yes, sex is messy. In the mind of a child, odd. But sex is not bad. Sex is not wrong. It shouldn't be viewed as such. There are parameters to be followed. However, that statement aside, why are you teaching your kids it's "yucky" to be aware of their genitalia? Not once have I said to demonstrate, verbalize, or hand your kid a dildo. HOWEVER, according to what you believe your child can mentally handle in terms of mature information regarding sex, verbalize what their body parts are and what they are for. Don't be that person who has to sit in the doctor's office with a 16 year old young man and young woman who have discovered they are pregnant, and your child asks how the baby will exit his girlfriend's body. This is a true story. I'm not kidding. This actually happened. The son did not know how a baby is generally supposed to exit a female. Do not be those parents!!!!!!

Maturity is not simply a number by which you or anyone else decides your child is mature enough to make decisions for themselves or be capable of handling knowledge about sex. You decide as a result of the maturity they show you regardless of their age. My kids can handle a good portion of this. But trust me when I say, none of my kids are ready to know what foreplay is. Nope...Ain't even gonna cross that bridge until the question is asked (hopefully in another 6 years or more). You (are supposed to) know your kids better than anyone else. Half the time nowadays, parents are oblivious. Your kids aren't angels. Accept it. No child is perfect. Stop eating the shrooms, your child is not riding in on a white unicorn with a rainbow horn. You can't prevent everything, but you CAN be upfront about sex. What your child does with that information becomes their choice eventually. Accept that. When they do what you've preached not to, that does not mean you've failed as a parent. Holy crap, get over yourself! You fail as a parent when your embarrassment overshadows the love you have for your imperfect child. You fail as a parent when you can't shut your mouth and be supportive when they need your love more than they need to see your disapproving glare and the verbiage that you're disappointed in them.

So, in conclusion, be upfront with your kids about sex. Don't be the parents whose son doesn't know a baby is supposed to be birthed from a vagina at the age of 16. Don't be those parents who ridicule their daughter for becoming pregnant when there is a penis required to impregnate your daughter. Don't be those parents who place the "burden" on someone else to give your son the sex talk. Yes, that happened too. It isn't the school's responsibility. It isn't the youth pastor's responsibility. It's not the grandparents' responsibility. It's not the kids' friends responsibility. It's YOUR JOB! Of all phrases for me to use, I will use the line I LOATHE. Grow up! Yep! Grow up, do your job as a parent. Stop being embarrassed for using proper terminology for genitalia. Show maturity. You want your kids to show maturity? You want your kids to be upfront? It starts with you, parents.